In a significant number of relationships partners have no peace. Thy bitter and frustrated and appear to live a prison they have built for themselves.
It is very common to hear partners say they have no peace since they married. Many are victims of mental and physical injury. Our mental homes has many stories to tell. Peace derived from the Greek word shalom, means well-being or state of inner calmness and tranquility. If you create peace in your mind you bring it to the external world to sustain your relationship.
If your mind is peaceful you will be happy no matter how badly your love treats you. In the same way your love can motivate you to be happy if only your mind is peaceful. Peace brings self-love and motivate you to give yourself totally to your love.
WHY THERE IS NO PEACE IN SOME RELATIONSHIPS
Peace is state of mind. This means peace can’t be found outside you. Your love, money, beauty, wealth, qualification and fame cannot give you peace. Unfortunately many lovers see their partners as their problems and solution. They believe that if their lovers do and become what they expect, they will have peace of mind.
Instead of looking at themselves, they look up to their partners and external conditions for peace. When they don’t get what they want they become jealous, impatient, selfish, intolerant, dishonest, abusive and unforgiving. Negative feeling keeps them in prison.
HOW TO HAVE PEACE
Put the focus on yourself. Your partner can’t give you peace. Don’t attempt to change your partner. It never works. Instead change yourself to suit your relationship. Accept what you can’t change. A man will always be different from a woman emotionally, mentally, socially and sexually.
Our difference may appear inconvenient and irritating but with patience you can endure what you can’t change accept what your lover does or says. It is impossible to be in a relationship without conflict. If you want peace you have no option than to forgive your partner unconditionally anytime he offend you. Bitterness produces chemicals that poisons you mentally and physical. This means that when you forgive your lover you benefit from the act. If you refuse t forgive you harm yourself. It is like someone who keeps taking poison an expects another person to die from it.
Don’t be jealous because it disrupts your peace of mind. Know your strength and weaknesses to avoid unrealistic expectations. Don’t bit more than you can chew to boost your ego. Forget past mistakes. Let bygones be bygones. Get rid of negative thoughts, the fewer the negative thoughts, the greater your peace of mind. At the same time never leave your mind blank. Fill your mind with whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable. If anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.
Spend your free times in prayers, introspection and meditation. Thankful prayers bring peace because you know needs are secure in God’s hands. Peace of mind is the most sought after matter in life but is very elusive. The good news is that it’s free and within you. You only need to awaken the in you to live in the state of inner peace.
Have no anxiety. The peace of God that transcends all understanding will guard your heart. You have peace by trusting God and living a life that pleases him. Humility, forgiveness, patience and unconditional love will give you peace. Make peace of mind a natural habit. It is a precondition to a fulfilling life.